Sooo picking up exactly where we left off.. Lee broaches the subject of…The Dress!!
Lee: you were wearing…
…that fabulous dress…
…the one with the errr..what do you call them ( he motions with his hands) ..
Amanda: spaghetti straps.
Lee: spaghetti straps
Lee: and there was Pearl err..
Lee and Amanda: pearl buttons..
Lee: ahh it was gorgeous.
[Interesting that Lee mentions the fun time they had together – the party, the dancing.. enjoying those two things had nothing at all to do with the dress and everything to do with just enjoying each other’s company!]
Lee seems to have paid close attention to Amanda’s dress that night.. or is it the memory of her in it that is burned on his brain?? Me thinks it’s the latter.. though he wishes it didn’t. It’s all so darn inconvenient!
Oh dear.. get ready! I’m gonna get Freudian a few times with this scene!!!
HERE is a really simple summary of Freud’s defense mechanisms if you are interested.
Lots of denial going on here with the fabulous dress!! -Hmm.. I know! It was the dress!!! yes that’s it.. the dress was so special and that’s why he remembers her looking so beautiful . IMHO (as always!) with the dress- Lee is trying to separate Amanda from the woman who he found so beautiful that night- it was the dress! Not Amanda!!! Soooo wrong of course..]
Amanda quietly smiles: thank you.
Lee: where’d you get that?
Amanda: I made it.
( he instantly looks deflated, disappointed)
.. it’s a one of a kind huh?
[I think this comment hints at special, unique Amanda – Amanda is one of a kind]
Amanda nods: ah yeah I guess it is.
Lee mumbles to himself: gosh darn it.
to Amanda: you know…
…I wanted to get a present for a friend of mine…
…I just thought she’d look…
( Lee motions with his hands Grr!!!– ie.. really hot and grab-able!)
… you know… [No, and I don’t want to know, unless you’re talking about Amanda! 😉 ]
From the look on his face, I’m guessing he wasn’t thinking ‘great’ he was thinking something less PG rated! anyone else like to give Lee a good slap???!!!!!! 😉
When Lee begins to motion with his hands how hot this ‘friend’ of his would look in that dress? soooo inappropriate!.. and crosses a line they’ve never crossed. Yep- it’s over the limit!!!
Lee has never discussed his women and how hot they look with Amanda. She is not one of his buddies. They have always maintained that respectful distance. But here? Lee shares this with Amanda when he shouldn’t.
Why does Lee share how hot this new ‘friend’ would look with Amanda? I wonder if Lee here attempts to shift his close friendship with Amanda to pure buddy status – in reaction to romantic feelings he has been fighting for her. This is how he would talk to another guy no? Not someone you would ever see as a romantic prospect you know? Again, this is a Freudian defense mechanism! called ‘Reaction formation’ – I think it applies.. Lee is converting his romantic feelings for Amanda into the opposite.. not hate- but rather buddy status! – Epic Fail Lee! Oh and Morley’s scotch thoughts on Saved by the Bells reminded me of how after Service Above and Beyond, Lee tried to put Amanda in the buddy category there too- getting her to feed his fish (IMHO) he gives her a buddy slap on the arm and everything!
Here the shot cuts to Amanda.. her smile completely gone.. and her eyes wide with shock at what she is hearing here..
We hear Amanda simply say: Oh.
Lee, clueless, continues: – in something like that.
Okay, I said when Lee arrived late in the bullpen he didn’t seem ‘giddy’ at the starting of his new relationship – but here?? Okay- here he seems giddy!!!! Why is he giddy over his new girl? Well of course, this is just my current thinking.. trying to figure this all out.. do share your own!
I think, he is giddy about Amanda – and Lee’s focus on the new girl is an unconscious coping mechanism (yep he is full of them!). He is not conscious yet that this is what he is doing!
I think the writers are getting Freudian here with Lee! Lee has been battling denial now for quite a while – IMHO since Ship of Spies and the moment he ‘married’ Amanda
Lee’s unconscious defenses here seem to have shifted into Displacement. Displacement is the shifting of sexual impulses onto a more acceptable or less threatening target. Sexual feelings for Amanda at this point are threatening to Lee and their friendship. So he shifts the feelings onto this new girl to try and cope. I’ll come back to this throughout the episode but hopefully this Freudian idea won’t be too boring for ya! For me, it explains beautifully what Lee is doing with this new woman and Amanda – and it reduces my crankiness with Lee! IMHO Lee is giddy here for Amanda.. but is displacing these feelings onto the new girl. Well, it made me feel better! [Iwsod’s defense mechanism- rationalisation! whwhwhahaha!]
Back to this scene..
They are silent a beat.
[The expression on Lee’s face here is like – serenity! He’s got it all worked out!! He’s no longer stressed or anxious because he has put his feelings for Amanda on this new girl. Oh dear! ] Lee really is clueless to Amanda’s reaction..
Lee replies: ‘hmm’ happily..
But.. we cut to Amanda …she looks to the side.. not sure how to respond to this statement of Lee’s. There are Limits to their friendship – and hearing about how hot his ‘friend’ would look in her dress is over the limit!!!! Yeah I’m gonna dress her up to look like you and then I’m gonna find her so hot! eek!!!!
Amanda begins to look everywhere but at Lee.. Amanda then more forcefully says: ohhhh..
the shot cuts back to Lee who suddenly looks very worried.. no longer lost in a happy thought or memory.
He has finally seen Amanda isn’t enjoying his memory of that dress as much as he is! [Or maybe the thought of how hot his ‘friend’ would look in it!]
It seems his stress returns! Hmm maybe this defense mechanism of Lee’s won’t work – if he knows Amanda isn’t happy with it??!! Interesting!
He watches Amanda walks off..
[Okay.. Lee’s hair is indicating Lee’s emotions and thoughts are topsy turvy! ]
and Lee kind of awkwardly smiles.
Lee is very confused here at what he is doing.. and how Amanda reacts.. no wonder he is preoccupied! I think the moment he notices her awkward reaction he realises he made a mistake by sharing.. or over sharing! – but whether he yet understands how wrong it was for him to think that of his friend in Amanda’s dress? I think that is something else-I’m not sure he gets how very wrong that is..yet! we’ll see..
The scene ends here..
Oh dear!!! Lee !! Lee!!! you are in such denial here buddy!! Lee- you aren’t going to be able to replace Amanda with another woman.. or shift your feelings for her onto another woman..but.. Lee is sure going to give it a good go! Like the dress- Amanda is one of a kind, irreplaceable (Lee seems to have forgotten this lesson from Odds on a Dead Pigeon!) – and she can’t be narrowed down to a ‘type’ either!!!
Hmm yes get your ladyfriend a dress like that one you remember Amanda looking beautiful in.. that should do it! Sad deluded Lee.. I feel for him here.. He has to make this mistake in order to learn his lesson that Amanda is one of a kind though..and it was the woman in the dress that was so fabulous, not the dress!
I guess Amanda is getting progressively disconcerted about this friend.. maybe because of the very fact that Lee is even calling the new girl a ‘friend’ – has he called the Randies ‘friend’? wouldn’t he usually call them ‘a date’? Hmm.. I think that this one being a friend could be a bit different.. a bit of a red flag to Amanda that something is different with Lee here.. but I think she wouldn’t know what is different yet, and would just be confused at his behaviour here. I find it a little confusing myself! Shocked too I guess… can’t wait to hear what you all think Amanda’s reaction is!
Also, Lee seems to be making an effort with this friend, to buy her a special gift (aside from the fact that he wants to buy her Amanda’s dress! rofl!).
I think it’s great Amanda doesn’t pretend everything is great when Lee over shares- good for you Amanda!!
Since I’ve gotten all Freudian with this post, now is a good time to point out that IMHO Amanda’s defense mechanisms for dealing with her growing feelings for Lee have been, up to this point- thought suppression and acceptance. I suspect thought suppression is about to become unworkable for Amanda.. so thought I’d mention it upfront! [and stop suppressing this thought myself 😉 ]
I swear the writers had out their info on Freud’s defense mechanisms as they sat down and thought up plots for Lee and Amanda!! [Or they had consulted with Dr Pfaff! 😉 ]
Oh boy.. can’t wait to hear your ideas on this scene and what’s going on !! [my only request: just try not to jump ahead in the episode 🙂 ] I’m thinking we’ll be wanting to come back to this moment later! byeee for now!! don’t forget all opinions are welcome!!!